When facing a new challenge, whether physical, emotional or intellectual, I used to approach the edge of my comfort zone like Chuck Yeager approached the sound barrier. As the vibration of fear entered the cockpit of my soul, I wrestled for the stick as rivets popped and adrenaline pumped.
But a funny thing happened. As soon as I made the transition to supersonic flight, the ride smoothed out. My fear, still present but now relegated to background noise, was replaced by exhilaration. The stress of the challenge increased my focus and sharpened my thinking. When it seemed time slowed down, I knew I was operating in “The Zone.”
How can you operate in The Zone, too? How can you avoid the paralysis of fear? Start by owning your feelings, not denying them. Embrace fear, letting it wash over you and break on the shoreline. If you experience the taste of fear often enough, you will be desensitized to its paralyzing effects. The second step involves self empowerment through actively training your emotions.
As a personal trainer and lifestyle coach, I am fortunate to interact with successful people on a daily basis, sharing insights, trading secrets of success and telling war stories. There are several techniques I have learned over the years to retrain my brain so that when I confront fear, I can move past it quickly and refocus my thinking. One of the most effective techniques I have learned is to engage in activities that elicit an initial response of fear, yet are relatively safe. Once past the initial jolt of fear-induced adrenaline, the ride can be exhilarating.
My father was a veteran of WWII, a Navy man who served in the South Pacific. I always had an interest in WWII planes and enjoyed going fast. So three years ago, for a milestone birthday, I had the opportunity to have stick time in a seventy year old WWII Navy fighter plane. Nothing says “I can do this” like performing a 3G barrel roll and a series of aileron rolls with the cockpit open. Ott, my unflappable instructor pilot sitting behind me, guided us through the maneuvers with an invisible hand on control that would override mine should things go awry. The cramped cockpit, smell of aviation fuel, sensation of vertigo and roar of the engine, all conspired to create a feeling of fear. Yet the awareness of experiencing a once-in-a-lifetime event helped to transform that fear into the focus needed to maintain control and enjoy the ride.
What experiences are you afraid of? How can you taste the fear without choking on it? Once you understand what gives you that visceral jolt, you can be creative in determining how to give yourself the controlled, inoculating doses. When administered with creativity and precision, the transformation will be empowering. Your life will begin where your comfort zone ends.
What techniques have you used to overcome fear?
Sounds a bit like the fear of getting into the intersection to make a left turn – until you push yourself and start doing it. Or the fear of passing on two-lane highways – until you’ve done it a few times. (Later you may gain confidence and be able to pass 2 or 3 slow cars at a time (given the right conditions) with confidence and a kind of “exhilaration.”
Also the fear of bowlers to get near the gutter to pick up the corner pin spares — you need a willingness to try it until you learn how to do it; then comes the satisfaction and occasional exhilaration of doing well what many other bowlers cannot do. — John H.
Hi John, your 2 300 games prove that you are a risk taker. I know you practice making spares so that when a big game is on the line, you can do it with confidence. BTW, I’d be careful passing 2 or 3 cars at a time. Dosen’t your car have like 85 HP?
Go Pilot Joe! I’ve learned that actually “doing what you thought could not be done” was a great impetus for more daring adventures in business and life….Life is fleeting and fragile..no time to waste so its important we all “Go for it” thru the FEAR: “False Evidence Appearing Real”.
Thank you DonnaLyn, love the FEAR acronym! Taking your wonderful course about public speaking involved overcoming fear. Not sure what was more of a challenge: flying a T51 or standing before the class for critique. Either way, whatever doesn’t kill you only makes you stronger.!
You definitely know fear being a scuba diver and being 100 feet underwater. When you panic your sense s don’t work. You have to calm down it does help that you have God on your side and you know him and trust him.
Hi Kathleen, Great to hear from you. I think you are 100% on target. Perhaps it is God’s quiet, calming voice saying, “…slow down, breathe and don’t panic. You CAN get through this,” when a dangerous situation is unfolding.
When I did a wreck dive of the USS Constellation on my honeymoon in Bermuda, a shimmering silver cloud approached us at 65′ under. It was a school of barracuda swimming right toward us…fast. I looked at my instructor and she held both hands up, palms facing me. I hovered motionless, took in a deep breath, and as I exhaled, the silvery cloud of big teeth and dead eyes flew past us. Sometimes God is your copilot, sometimes a dive instructor.
Trainer Joe needs to go slow with his now out of condition body so he can prevent injury. I carefully explained this to trainer Joe as I began my training program with him….and have been quite successful in preventing overuse tendon injuries. After age 50 you must start at one sixth speed and slowly get to full speed over a minimum of three months…there is no rush..it is the process that matters…not the 100%
Hi Dr. G,
I think you are right…almost. The rate of reconditioning is about the same as the rate of deconditioning. So if I was on the Injured Reserve for 6 weeks, perhaps it will take about that long to regain what I lost. But I promise not to do anything foolish or push to hard. Slow and steady progression is my plan. It is my understanding that medical research indicates consuming a generous piece of cheesecake o.p.d. can be beneficial. True?